Why Try Tantric Energy
Exchange & Cultivation?
Tantric energy exchange can be delivered in many forms, and each one offers both a skill-building opportunity and a healing experience. This is rooted in tantra's connection to the healing potential within the intelligent flow of life itself, known as Ayurveda. My goal is to give you a well-rounded introduction to building your own tantric power in your first session, so you can see where you might want to go next on your life's journey. This path is not an easy walk in the park, nor a novel pleasure vacation from everyday life — it is a powerful path that will transform you once you find the transcendence it offers.
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To reach transcendence — overcoming, moving through, and emerging victorious on the other side of something — we must first address what has been challenging us, throwing us off our game, weakening us, and perpetuating our suffering. We have been exposed to influences that misled us and normalized our own role in generating our suffering and obstacles. Confronting this is what arms us with the knowledge and insight we need to free ourselves.
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Remember this: no one and nothing will give you your power, and no one and nothing will enlighten you. But you can be inspired to move in the right direction — toward empowerment, knowledge, and understanding — so you can reclaim the light of excellence hidden within you, and grow into a happy, strong, rational human being, healthy in mind, body, and emotion.
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The challenges to humanity's collective wellbeing can be traced through systems theory, an approach that reveals how environmental factors ripple through the interconnected chain of mind, consciousness, biological energy, and behavioral health. Here, that includes the pressures men and women place on one another around intimacy — and it applies to people of all lifestyles.
What follows is necessary groundwork for answering some vital questions about sexual energy and the pleasure we're all entitled to as a birthright — pleasure a growing number of us feel increasingly deprived of.
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In what follows, I'll take on the elephant in the room:
Why can't we get along as well as we used to?
Why are so many men and women resenting one another while still desiring one another?
Why are we facing a loneliness epidemic and a worldwide fertility crisis?
Why is tantric energy exchange becoming so much more popular now?
By no means is this page written as a discrimination against people based on their identities, backgrounds, and orientation. I acknowledge biological traits acquired through spiritual, neurological, and social development as well as the effect of traumas, abuse, systemic pressure, and popular culture. Ultimately, I am not always right 100% of the time and there are always exceptions to every person and phenomena in our social order being described.
Tantra - Can it Fix Our Loneliness Epidemic?
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The U.S., Surgeon General has declared a loneliness epidemic. How can we get out of this disaster? They say that spending less time online can help, but what has our exposure to media done to us?
Ah, tantra! The artful skill and way of becoming filled with power and embodying pleasure itself! Few people understand the ultimate nature of tantra. Tantra is not only for pleasure embodiment. It is a sacred means of gathering true self sustained power within oneself. Some people identify tantra as "sex magic(k)"... Well, what if I told you that according to Yoga vidya (the science of the union of self and Supreme Self), magic(k) is the byproduct of power?! Yes! It is so. You do not get power from magic(k). Magic(k) is the manifest effect of power.
Each session should help you build power and skills contributing to the art of following the flow of your most innate primal, and ultimate self, and eventually seamlessly blending into deep and beautifully connected tantric lovemaking. Much of it is mind and energy based before contact, pressing, friction, and impact comes into context. Sessions begin using vocal sounds or mantra, breath or pranayama, hand, muscle, and eye positions or mudra, muscle tension, and even possibly some yoga stretches to help you relieve your body of tension and ease it into alignment. Tantra utilizes all of the chakras, as it encompasses the entire mind and complete accompanying body.
It is recommended that you slow down ejaculation sessions to between once every couple weeks to once a month or so to make these experiences more pleasurable for yourself and everyone else involved... The idea of the practice of microcosmic orbit, is to get your own mind-body to stop stressing you out so much. Behind the desire to achieve an ejaculation there is a frenetic energy of urgency and anxiety that mix in with the natural libido. Unfortunately the tempting explosions of pleasure so very many men have come to deeply adore and crave have become a major downfall. It's like its own drug that many get so addicted to.
I will now frame the societal and generational challenges that many of us are all facing, which has only exacerbated our ability to be soft, loving, receptive, honest, and ultimately vulnerable with one another about our feelings.
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The distortion of women and the "timeline" of base desire
Men have been using female bodies to attract and encourage desire based enslavement for a very long time. Men wrangling up one another's money with the bait of the female body. The best porn comes in the form of a male and female team. Often for porn to sell successflly to men it needs a male mind to present the product to appeal to other male minds. The most successful pornography often needs a man who can direct the woman's behavior to suit impractical or fully unrealistic male fantasies. This demographic-targeting business model also has a way of narrowing the focus of our minds, squishing our consciousness down into a paradigm based container of desire with ejaculation at the peak of its existence. "GET TO THE EJACULATION!" is essentially a goal-oriented market modeling template that has been used for hundreds of years in decreasingly subtle ways.
The Narrowing of the Paradigm of What a Woman is
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The repetitive conditioning of profit-based marketing campaigns and media that pushes men to focus on relieving the pressure in their genitals (Epididymal hypertension, commonly known as "blue balls") leaves the world of men trapped in a narrow paradigm of sexual preoccupation which results in urgency, desire, and the weakness of impatience which eventually producing embarrassment, shameful feelings, and self esteem struggles. In these self esteem struggles, men will suffer a great deal of sadness, angst, depression, and overall feelings of low self worth. Often the most direct route that both men and women take when their sense of self esteem or personal worth feels assaulted or sidelined, is to lash out with cruelty in dysfunctional, argumentative, interactions, of blaming, accusation, demonization, or character lampooning.
In this narrow timeline I speak of, the woman is unreal, merely conceptual and lacking complete or otherwise divine shakti-structured dimension. This way male society at large is sold a distorted false concept of womanhood. To the porn industry and the large demographic of men who attune themselves to it, she is just a poppet, a doll or puppet that are used to plant more humans inside of or use and throw away like an empty shell. Maybe even pass it around if "it" is decent enough.
The urge to fulfill the experience of an explosion of wet juicy self gratification saturates the brain. We must own and exploit this saturation of desire for satisfaction with internalized and conscious saturation, by pointing the energy right back at the culprit. It is the brain that wants cum after all! When the energy is moved up, It works to tone your pineal gland. Once your pineal gland is toned, you will have a higher level of pleasure moving within yourself, filling you and instead of wanting to squirt it out as soon as you feel an accumulation, you calmly allow the accumulation to grow larger and with a deeper capacity. In time you will feel ready to share rather than in search.
When we frequently saturate our senses with porn and deviate from healthy life choices, such as exercise, diet, art creation, singing, dancing, and caring for our own domicile, the overwhelming force of libidinous energy makes us more prone to behavioral and social collapses into afflicted, societally inappropriate, or otherwise repellent behaviors via impulse.
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Ultimately the practice of compulsive self gratification without delay can build a shortened pleasure-reward pathway in the brain. This will exasserbate impatience, build anxiety, and ultimately cause us to feel irritable and emotionally out of balance. This can be sensed on some level in our behavioral cues such as expressions, body language, vocal tones, or overall social behaviors such as avoidance, blocking/unblocking, and sexual goal-oriented, or otherwise lustful, pornographic, and wanton dialogue. Compulsive gratification seeking will become behaviorally obvious to anyone with even a little bit of common sense, resulting in a sort of "mirroring" effect of annoyance and avoidant behavior in the person who we are interested. Eventually they will pick up on the clues that they are being targeted for your gratification and this will result in them expressing outrage and/or cutting off communication, or otherwise ghosting you. If you want to have a lot of pleasure and a healthy enjoyable relationship with another person, full of loving and supportive interactions, the last thing we should be doing is making the person who we are interested in feel disrespected, dehumanized, or otherwise reduced to an object.
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Women are not free of error
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Similar principles go for the woman who has aligned herself to the above described dynamics and become comfortable with a sort of sexual and interpersonal form of combat. That and, all of the dysfunctional interactions which have been made so common, not only in the West but in modern society world wide.
The woman who operates adamantly for sexualized causes (including their own attitude that they are entitled to male attention) can end up struggling in giving herself room for self care and self love. She may end up reducing herself-- shrinking to accommodate objectification and base desire. Ironically this self reduction may come in various forms of self trashing like promiscuity, artless and unskillful forms of exhibitionism, sexual aggression, and ultimately bullying, emasculation, gaslighting, and petty name calling of a man who is ultimately unreceptive or otherwise not willing to give into (or finance) her attempts to seduce him.
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